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Daisies in the Middle
Talking with Middle School Girls About Violence
Recent events reported in the news—including incidents in Australia and at Brown University—have prompted many of us to ask questions and express concerns about violence and safety. Middle school girls are keenly aware of the world around them, and exposure to violence—through news, social media, or peer conversations—can feel confusing or frightening. While these topics are difficult, open and supportive conversations at home can help girls feel safe, heard, and supported.When these topics arise, start by listening. Ask what your daughter has heard and how it made her feel before offering explanations or reassurance. You don’t need to have all the answers — your calm presence and willingness to listen matter most.
Keep information honest and age-appropriate and be mindful of repeated exposure to distressing content. Normalize big feelings by reminding your daughter that fear, sadness, or confusion are natural responses. Emphasize the trusted adults and systems in place to help keep her safe and encourage her to speak up if something feels concerning.
Finally, balance difficult conversations with hope. Point out helpers, kindness, and the ways people support one another during challenging times. Let your daughter know the
conversation doesn’t end here—questions and feelings can come up anytime.
Conversation Starters for Home
- “What have you heard about this, and how did it make you feel?”
- “Was anything confusing or worrying for you?”
- “What do you do when you start to feel scared or overwhelmed?”
- “Who are the adults you trust if you need help or have questions?”
- “What helps people take care of each other during hard times?”
Additional Resources for Parents:
With gratitude,
Ms. Hall
Middle School Counselor & Counseling Department Chair
The Hockaday School
Within the private school community, The Hockaday School is an independent college-preparatory day school for girls from grades PK–12 located in Dallas, Texas. Students realize their limitless potential through challenging academic curricula, arts, athletics, and extracurricular programs so that they are inspired to lead lives of purpose and impact.
The Hockaday School does not discriminate on the basis of race, color, national origin, ethnicity, creed, religion, sexual orientation, disability, or any other status protected by applicable law in the administration of its educational, admissions, financial aid, athletic, and other policies and programs.
The Hockaday School does not discriminate on the basis of race, color, national origin, ethnicity, creed, religion, sexual orientation, disability, or any other status protected by applicable law in the administration of its educational, admissions, financial aid, athletic, and other policies and programs.